In people-touching-my-stuff-news, I was slightly perturbed during the meeting to find the woman sitting on my left gently fingering the charms on my bracelet! On the plus side, she clearly has excellent taste. There was a meeting we both attended last year where she was wearing dark skinny jeans and an oversized white blouse with leopard print flats and I just thought she was the most chic woman in the building... which prompted me to go out and buy a pair of animal print flats (my first animal print purchase!) But it's really not ok to touch people's things without asking! Not that I'm going to hold it against her... I'm holding two grudges already, my arms are full!
Ok dear readers, be honest with me... are you holding any grudges?
Daily Details:
- weather: cool mornings, warm days
- Vince cashmere sweater, thrifted at Secret Closet for $4 with small hole and repaired for $6 at my local alteration shop, total cost $10 divided by 1 use = approximate current cost per wear (accpw) $10
- pleated skirt, thrifted, accpw $1
- arm party: old watch, local bracelet, mostly gifted charm bracelet
- high heeled oxfords, old, rarely worn because they kinda hurt after a while, accpw $12
- ethical ensemble evaluation: A
Grudges? hmm-mm? nope, not lately. The view of the Sound is so pretty!! Makes me want to go back to Seattle. I promise I won't touch your stuff. Your ensemble is very delightful and you SHOULD be proud of it. "So there, mean people to my friend!"
ReplyDeleteGreat look, I wouldn't want to mess with you. I love the pleating in the skirt mixed with argyle! I don't believe in holding grudges, because they only hold you back and create uneasy thoughts in your mind. I don't want to waste any of my energy on being unhappy...so I just let it go & let it be to focus on the abundance around me.
ReplyDeletewell, I think I'm not.. at least I can't remember anything like that. and I hope you're going to forget your grudges as well because you don't actually need that weight and they don't deserve your attention.
ReplyDeletebtw, I love how that skirt looks on you! it's super fierce! especially with those classy shoes.
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I love the entire look but those oxfords? LOVE them! I definitely wouldn't want to mess with you.
ReplyDeleteGrudges? No, but I am holding a healthy dose of scepticsm about someone who has broken trust and am working hard to maintain a healthy perspective.
Grudges? I have a little folder in my head where I stash them. Currently, I have less than five, and I only pull them out when necessary because most are rather minor. My biggest is the one against my ex and his wife. It is possible that ill see him (or them both) at homecoming this year, and I have started rehearsing how I will keep from screaming in his face or causing a scene. I think grudges keep me centered because I can often be too nice.
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That is a great pleated skirt! I love the flow :)
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I've only recently managed to let go of a few grudges. I realized they were only hurting me, not the people I had issues with. But it was NOT easy!
ReplyDeleteCan I just say that I can't imagine someone touching my jewelry while I was wearing it? That's an invasion of personal space, in my opinion. That woman is lucky you're so patient!
i think you look incredibly chic and in control! as far as people touching things, i think i get the most weirded out when someone who isn't family or a friend touches my hair. and as far as grudges go, i hold one that i wish i could let go. last year a friend and i planned a trip and had the details settled several months in advance. just a few days before, she cancelled on me and had a list of ridiculous and far-fetched reasons, but she and i both knew that she lied to me, and she lied to me from the start about even wanting to plan this trip. it still upsets me, and i wish it didn't.
ReplyDeleteI love this outfit! That skirt is really cute, and the whole look definitely screams professional and pulled together :)
ReplyDeleteI must admit I am a grudge holder. I really try hard not to be because I know it's not healthy, but with some things you just can't let them go. I would definitely have lost respect for those women and it would be hard for me to be around them - what an awkward situation :(
That pleated skirt is so pretty! It's always difficult when you have to continue to work with people who've created problems. Other than the woman touching your bracelet (totally weird!), I hope the rest of the meeting went well!
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At least your grudge is justified! I can't blame you at all for holding a grudge in that situation. I'm sure I would've done the same except I wouldn't have been brave enough to email them about it.
ReplyDeleteI still hold a really stupid grudge from college. It's the most petty thing ever, too. I was checking out this student organization thing, but I had time to kill until it started. I saw my friend (pseudo friend, more of an acquaintance) in the on-campus restaurant, so I joined her and her friend at the table. She was basically like, "uh...we're in the middle of something." So I left all pissed off. Then I sat by her when the meeting started, and she continued to ignore me even though I was brand new to this organization and felt like I needed some guidance, and she had been a member for awhile. I was so mad that I left before the meeting started, and I never gave her the time of day again. This was 7 years ago. I've even smirked to myself a couple times when I've seen her Facebook posts about having rough times. I am evil. She's actually a kind of nice girl as a whole, just a little clueless sometimes.
See? Your grudge is fiiiiine.
Ok, I don't blame you for holding a grudge - I would have been the same way too I imagine - too stunned to say anything right when it was happening but after thinking about it, clearly getting angry. You did the right thing sending them your thoughts - they should have apologized. I hope the year isn't too awkward for you! You do look awesome here - very in control and put together!!
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm kind of LOL'ing at the person fingering your charms - I'm pretty fidgety at meetings but I play with my own jewelry, not someone else's!
I don't think I'm holding any grudges at the moment, but the joke in my family is we are the "can't let anything go" family, so we've had plenty in the past!
Some People! You look fierce! Nice choice. I've been looking for a pleated skirt like that for a long time. I used to have a manager that was so petty and insane that well, I can't even talk about her without blowing a gasket!! Augh! Whenever I had a meeting with her I wore a big cuff bracelet. I felt like it was my armour against her. It would deflect all her bad vibes. I know it sounds crazy but it kind of helped.
ReplyDeleteOoh this is a juicy one. I try not to hold 'em as they eat me up ... I'm too sensitive, sigh. Not that I'm in France I have to learn the art of what they call the 'gallic shrug' here: you shrug your shoulders and raise your eyebrow and it can mean "I don't care:, "It's not my fault" or "Screw off". Handy!
ReplyDeleteBUT what I have learned from other peoples' odd/rude/ridiculous behavior towards me: that even though they may be acting like a jerk to me, it's THEY who have the problem, not ME. (Ie: those women could be petty b****s who like bossing people around; the stylish woman needs a lesson in personal space). That usually makes me feel better. It allows me to sometimes deflect those killer death vibes people send out that can make me feel a grudge!
Someone told me years ago, when I struggled to react to these people in a way that was either professional, or at least not as rude as these people were being to me, to do a thing that's called taking the high road: it usually involves asking a question in your most innocent voice and putting on your most innocent and inquiring face, with the aim of making the person see that you're the bigger person, and he/she has crossed the line. ("Oh, would you like to **touch** my bracelet?". Or, to the two women: "Oh, did you ever get that email I sent?". Sometimes a "Really? I didn't know that. Tell me more." can really shut 'em up.). It takes a while to get the hang of it, especially in the heat of the moment, but the few times I've tried it, it's worked like a charm and reduced the person to a blathering mess. You don't have to take this advice, of course. It's helped me. :)
Love the outfit. I like the idea of black as a "don't mess with me!" message!
This outfit totally screams "don't you dare talk down to me, I'm awesome and you're not"... oh sorry I added that last part. I've had strangers touch my hair, which is so weird and awkward. Hope you have a great weekend!
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Ok, that's pretty bizarre that she sat there playing with your bracelets! That would have given me the willies for sure!
ReplyDeleteHmmm...grudges...when I was younger I def. had them. Not that I am highly evolved by any means...but with age, I learned to let go of them. I hated that feeling of them eating you up inside. Anywho....Happy weekend to you! :) Amanda PS I'm jealous that you get to wear a sweater!
Grrr, that would make me SO mad too! I'm not holding a specific grudge, but I'm continually irritated with a family member's significant other who never ceases to insult my political viewpoints, and always brings up politics even though I DON'T want to talk about it with him! Anyway, I think your grudge is justified :) And your outfit portrays confidence and power--I hope the meeting went ok!
ReplyDeleteOMG how rude! I'm so sorry you had to deal with these ladies! and who plays with someone else's bracelet without even asking or anything? That is really strange. Meanwhile, you look great and I really like the outfit. Black with a bit of color is my fave!
ReplyDeleteAnd I have been holding a grudge since the 7th grade and am now 25. Sooo... yeah, I would need a really good apology to get over it.
i'm sorry you have to deal with them! jerks. however, it's nice that the principal is on your side! also, i laughed out loud at that woman playing with your bracelet. how odd!
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Funny isn't people touching your stuff - twice so far it happened to you
About those nasty people - well you know it will not be the first or last time it will happened to you - Go see my blog i have a good one for you about an unkind, unprofessional, rude person i had to dealt with this week !
Nice outfit you have there Vivienne very feminine, very cute on you
Have a good weekend
Ariane xxxx
Don't worry about it baby. I know it's hard to let go of anger (trust me), but I think you handled it in the right way. Especially when you show up in something take charge like this! Great skirt! And I would be totally creeped out at that guy trying to help you take your photos. I get that it was a nice gesture, but man just leave me alone!
ReplyDeleteOh grudges...I hold some too. I try not to since I think generally I shouldn't let people get to me like that...but really...I'm human, and if you bug me, I get annoyed.
ReplyDeleteHow annoying for you to have such people in your work life! I know everyone has someone like that in the work environment, but they don't sound kind at all. Great look to combat with! =)
The man sounded charming to offer his help. I think I may have declined as well. =)
And...I find it weird to hear someone was "man-handling" your charm bracelet while you were wearing it. Awkward?
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I find it's really best for you to let it go, it takes up too much of your energy otherwise - especially if you have to work with them. I've carried out experiments to see what would happen if I purposely changed my thoughts and behavior around someone I didn't like at work, for instance - into being positive and even seeking them out at times - just to see what would happen. It was totally amazing how things changed beyond my wildest imaginings. I just kept the attitude of namaste as much as I could, i.e., the divinity in me greets the divinity in you. I'm not a religious person or anything, but that idea really helped keep me on a higher ground and put things in perspective.
ReplyDeleteI love the pleated skirt. I try not to hold grudges. Wears me down. But I hate nasty people in my work environment. I hope they move on and annoy someone else.
ReplyDeleteI think holding grudges is only human. Of course, they aren't the most healthy thing in the world since they can wear you down and take up room for other emotions. But, I think we all do it at least once in our lives. On a different note, I am loving your pleated skirt. Pairing it with the blue cardigan was adorable as well!
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those two buzzards sound awful! they don't even know how to discuss things with people. they don't want a resolve to the situation! they rather not communicate and let things fester. how evil! pray for them. hahaha you look wonderful. i have a pleated skirt and just can't get the right top for it. i'm going to look for a cardigan now. haha that was nice of that gentleman. have a great weekend vivienne.
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I think i'm the exact opposite. I can never stay mad about ANYTHING! Even things that perhaps i should. I don't know why...i'm over it and moving on and other people who know the situation are looking at me like i'm crazy. *shrug*
ReplyDeleteAnd omg, i would be freaking out if someone was touching my stuff that was attached to me without saying anything. @_@
Also, cute outfit! :D
nice blue and black outfit, with the skirt that reminds me of a ballerina, in a very professional, competent teacher way!:) ok viv, i think you need to make a button that says, "i know my stuff is cool, but Please don't touch it without asking me." am i holding any grudges? probably, maybe, i don't know, but if i am, i can't remember them, at the moment.
ReplyDeleteI love your cardigan! It looks amazing with your pleated skirt :) I really love this look on you!
ReplyDeletesuper cute outfit
ReplyDeletelove the argyle with the strong black
hey if anyone says they aren't holding at least one grudge...they are lying!
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I have one serious grudge, unfortunately it's with my own sister. Five years ago when my husband died, no one in my family could make it to the memorial service. Her excuse was that her grand-daughter's boyfriend had just been killed in an accident and she felt she had to be there for her. This despite the fact the grand daughter had 3 siblings, 2 parents, and dozens of aunts, uncles and cousins. My 2 daughters and I had no relative in this city (which incidentally is only 4 hours from where my family lives). When I wrote to her and told her how disappointed I was she wrote me the cruelest letter I've ever receive (and yeah, I've kept it), ending with "Get over yourself." Now she calls and tries to make like nothing has happened but all these years later I still cry when I think of that letter and while I'm civil, will never have her to my home again. Unhealthy? Yes, I know - but she still doesn't get it!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that you had two co-workers be so mean to you. Why do some people have to be like that? Sigh... I live outside of a small town, so I try to be careful who I hold a grudge against because I'm likely to run into them repeatedly. I do tend to put up my guard against some people though because I can't trust what snarky thing they might say to me.
ReplyDeleteI adore this outfit! I saw you wearing this skirt once but didn't have the opportunity to compliment you on it. It's great. Let's band together to bring the pleated skirt back into vogue!
ReplyDeleteYes, unfortunately. I hold a grudge against a certain client I have at work. The first time I met her I was presenting web site designs to her and she totally cut me down with a comment regarding how young I am. Like I couldn't possibly know what I'm talking about. To this day I'm still annoyed.
ReplyDeleteThis outfit seems like a good one to make a statement though. Don't mess with you!!
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